We will want to know how long you have known the applicant/s and how often you have contact with them. This is to determine how well you know the applicant/s and therefore the significance of the reference.
If the applicants are a couple we will ask your opinion on their relationship such as is it strong and stable and what their strengths are. Also how do they cope with stress and how mutually supportive the couple are. This is because most of the children who are available for adoption have experienced instability and uncertainty in their lives. This can include having several carers since being removed from their birth families and a breakdown in the adoptive parents’ relationship can prove to be extremely traumatic for a child who has already suffered trauma in their lives.
We will ask if you have observed the applicant/s with children and how well they relate and interact with them. The applicant/s may have birth children or you may have seen them with your children or the children of families and friends. This helps us determine the level of experience
How the applicants have adjusted to childlessness if this is the case, how they have prepared to become adoptive parents, how much they have shared with the referees and how open they are in talking about the issues surrounding adoption
Where the applicant(s) have pets, how they are managed and if they present any risk to children;
Any reservations the referee has about the safety and welfare of any prospective adoptive children and whether the referee wholeheartedly supports the application;
What support the referee is able to offer the prospective adopters.